During a vacation in Hawaii last summer, I picked up a hitchhiker on Kauai’s north shore. He was a fit-looking young man in his early twenties who spoke with a French accent. He told me he’d grown up in Tahiti but was living in France, and that he was a professional body-boarder. I asked if he rode big waves. He said, “Yeah, that’s my thing – it takes lots of wave-energy to perform well.”
He told me he’d grown tired of the endless travel his sport required, and that he was thinking of taking a break, because he was no longer happy being a professional athlete. His voice thickening with regret, he described how riding the waves as a child in Tahiti had been pure joy, and how competition had sapped that pristine happiness.
“Competing, you have to play tricks on your friends,” he said. “You can’t even talk to them the same way anymore.”
I marveled – this young man had accomplished so much, and already he was career-weary. And, some moxie, too, to drop off a two‑story wall of water while performing tricks along the way. His voice was firm with the resolution that had made his accomplishments possible.
We talked in a general way about sports, and I mentioned that I’d worked at Runner’s World in the early 1970s. I told him about a conversation I’d had with Joe Henderson, the magazine’s founding editor, while we ran ten miles together during a recent marathon.
Joe talked about the changes in running over the last four decades. In the seventies, when the Americans were competitive at the highest level, many were friends who trained together and shared their methods, even as the world-dominating Kenyans do today. Joe said that with big money riding on every race, the Americans no longer feel comfortable hanging out and sharing their secrets.
I told the body surfer that I’d spent much of my vacation snorkeling at Tunnels Lagoon. His voice rose with excitement as he described the “amazing numbers of seashells” I would find if I swam straight out from the singer Charo’s house to a gap in the reef where the currents drop piles of debris. “You’ll find many wonderful things!” he said, his pleasure in sharing contrasting with the weary tones in which he’d described his career impasse.
I told him how, while I was at Runner’s World, I would often photograph indoor track meets that would start with races for elementary school kids, and how the crowd would go wild, screaming and whistling as the tiny kids flailed around the track. I told him how it had struck me that the applause for the professionals was always more subdued.
The body boarder appeared to resent my saying this, as if I’d cast a slur on his sport. “I like competition,” he said sullenly, as he stepped out of the car.
I regretted that I hadn’t been able to explain my meaning more clearly. Putting down his sport was the last thing on my mind. I’d simply wanted to share a feeling that audiences respond more enthusiastically to a certain naïve joy in sports, than to events tinged with too much adult hype and seriousness.
Reflecting on our conversation, I wondered if the young bodyboarder’s simple happiness riding the waves as a boy hadn’t helped him rise to the top of his sport. If he could recover some of that unselfconscious joy, perhaps he could forget about his opponents and perform better than ever. It might take courage, because he’d have to become inwardly engrossed in pure play again, and be less focused on external rewards. Going his own way, he might find himself further distanced from his competitors. But his purity would surely win their respect in the end, and his joy might even inspire them.
An idealistic scenario? A Pollyanna-ish ending for a Hollywood film script? Possibly.
When Michael Jordan joined the Chicago Bulls, he insisted on a clause in his contract that spelled out his freedom to play basketball whenever and wherever he liked, including joining in neighborhood pickup games. And when a reporter asked then-Bulls coach Phil Jackson to characterize Jordan’s co-star Scottie Pippen in a single phrase, Jackson thought for a moment and replied: “The joy of basketball.”
In sports nowadays, joy can be hard to find. Turning on the TV, the odds are good that we’ll be treated to the sight of professional athletes whining, brawling, and preening. Numbed by the parade of boorishness, we gloss over behaviors that would have brought a blush to the cheeks of the great philosopher-coaches: people like Vince Lombardi, Jim Counsilman, John Wooden, Bill Walsh, Dean Smith, and George Halas.
As fans, we may have to take what’s dished out to us. But as participants, we can craft our own experiences. Like Jordan and Pippen, we can make a conscious decision to turn sports, at our level, into a quest for expansion – an artistic performance, a daily celebration, a spiritual search for joy.
How can we experience pure joy in sports? We can learn a lot from great athletes who’ve shown exceptional qualities as people.
Granted this is personal, but I’m inspired when I see Ann Trason, the greatest female ultramarathon runner of all time, handing out cups of Gatorade at an obscure trail race in the hills north of San Francisco, motivated by the simple pleasure of helping old geezers like me.
I’m inspired by Mark Plaatjes, winner of the 1993 World Championships marathon. During the New York City marathon the following year, Plaatjes was running with the lead pack when an injury forced him to drop out. Instead of retreating to his hotel room to sulk, he hobbled to the nearest aid station, where he volunteered his skills as a physical therapist to massage the slower runners.
Aside from their amazing physical gifts, what are some of the traits that inspire us in great athletes? Gymnast Kerri Strug’s courageous performance at the 1996 Olympics comes to mind. With an injured ankle, Strug performed a vault that ensured a gold medal for her team. Surely, an inspiring quality in athletes is a heart that’s big enough to include others in its sympathies.
Loving, expansive feelings aren’t exclusive to great athletes, of course, but can an athlete be considered truly great without them?
Consider Ty Cobb. I first learned of the professional baseball Hall of Famer’s career when I was seven or eight years old. I happened to mention his amazing lifetime batting average to my father, and to my surprise, Dad fell silent. I knew from this that there was something vaguely wrong about Cobb, but it would be 45 years before I learned of his darker side, when I watched Ken Burns’s Baseball documentary on PBS. It dawned on me then that my father had been unwilling to discuss Cobb’s faults, however reprehensible, and that it was a mark of Dad’s goodness that he’d been reluctant to do so.
But, hey, let’s be realistic. Sure, everyone loves a jock with a heart of gold, but can athletes truly afford to harbor big, floppy feelings? Can an NFL linebacker afford to love his competitors? If he treats them with kindness, won’t they cheerfully murder him on the spot? (Certainly.) On third and goal, there’s not much room for politeness: “Yo – after you!” “No, no – after you!” Whether winning requires beating the crap out of someone may depend on the sport. But there’s solid scientific evidence that expansive attitudes contribute to athletic success, and not merely by distracting us from energy-draining negativity.
A review of 101 studies of several thousand men and women revealed that negative emotions can have severe health consequences:
People who experienced chronic anxiety, long periods of sadness and pessimism, unremitting tension or incessant hostility, relentless cynicism or suspiciousness, were found to have double the risk of disease – including asthma, arthritis, headaches, peptic ulcers, and heart disease (each representative of major, broad categories of disease).
As 1972 Olympic marathon gold medalist Frank Shorter put it, “The marathon is too hard a race to waste energy hating your competitors.” The same could be said of any difficult sport – life included.
At a recent business meeting, I was introduced to a former college football player for whom the consequences of negative attitudes had taken a particularly brutal turn. He’d been an All-American linebacker at a nationally ranked NCAA Division I school. In his playing days, he’d weighed 245 pounds, and he’d had a 20-inch neck. When I met him, he looked like a tennis player – slim, athletic, well-proportioned, but nothing like his former hulking self.
He told me about a game he’d played, where a 300-pound offensive tackle had given him a difficult time. Frustrated and angry, he chose his moment and deliberately hit his nemesis in the knees, disabling him and sending him off the field. “He didn’t give me any more trouble,” he said. “I saw him several years later when I transferred to his school. He was hobbling across the campus using a cane.”
He then told me how, after graduation, he’d been in a terrible car accident that left him completely paralyzed. The doctors put him in a metal frame with buttons he could push to move around. His body wasted away. When I met him, he’d spent years painstakingly rebuilding his fitness to the point where he could walk and ride a bicycle.
We didn’t discuss the subtle karmic payback mechanism that may have been involved. But it was obvious from the way he described his experiences that he believed he’d incurred a serious debt in ending the lineman’s career, and that the bill had come due with a vengeance. The American nineteenth-century philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson was probably right, when he described a “law of compensation” that rewards us according to our deeds.
In his wonderful book, Running With the Legends, journalist Michael Sandrock compares the ever-cheerful Frank Shorter, whose phenomenal career spanned 10 years of racing at the highest level, with Australian Derek Clayton, the former marathon world record holder (2:08:33), whose career was plagued by injuries, thanks to his ruthless approach to training.
Just as with [British Olympic marathoner Ron] Hill, there is something in Shorter’s makeup that set him apart from Clayton. A story that gives an idea of Clayton’s personality is one he tells when speaking at prerace clinics. Clayton relates how during a race, he missed his drink at an aid station. A Japanese competitor running alongside graciously offered Clayton his own bottle. After taking some of the drink, Clayton began to hand it back to the Japanese runner. Suddenly, he changed his mind. Instead of giving it back to the Japanese runner, Clayton turned and threw the bottle off to the side of the road. Clayton was proud of that, and of the fact that he trained so hard that he would sometimes be “pissing blood.”
Sandrock observes, “Lots of runners train hard, but only the select few are able to put it together when it counts.” Meaning, presumably, that a ruthless attitude doesn’t always win the race. At the 1972 Olympics where Shorter won Gold, Clayton finished a disappointed thirteenth.
US Olympian Kenny Moore relates a telling story about Shorter:
Having been drafted and temporarily assigned to the Army track team, I’d finished third behind Jack Bacheler and Juan Martinez in the six-mile and qualified for the US team going to Europe. Afterward, I’d gone to talk to the feather-footed guy in a Yale uniform whom I’d sat on all the way and outkicked with a violent, 26-second last 200. “Sorry about that,” I said. “If I didn’t make the team, it was infantry training and ‘Nam for me.”
“Jesus Christ!” said Frank Shorter, “Why didn’t you say something? We could have worked it out. You didn’t have to kill yourself like that.” That was the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
Our everyday experiences tell us that contractive feelings sap our energy. Shorter was right: life is too hard to waste precious resources hating others. Moreover, the notion that expansive feelings such as love and kindness promote health and improve performance is no longer an airy sentiment. It’s been verified by the discovery of electrical and chemical pathways by which the effects of our positive and negative thoughts and feelings are carried to the most distant parts of our bodies, including the immune system, which is vitally involved in sports training and recovery.
Bruce Ogilvy, Ph.D., a pioneering sports psychologist, once studied the factors that had prevented a group of world-class badminton players from rising to the top of their sport. Ogilvy found that the second-tier athletes tended to beat themselves up mentally for their mistakes, while the champions simply noted their errors and moved on, wasting no energy on self-recrimination. The top players inwardly reviewed their flubs and quickly turned to the next task. Negative self-thoughts sap our energy. They are self-defeating.
Is it surprising, then, that so many great players, including Michael Jordan, have remained positive and expansive, relishing the game until the end of their careers? In his wonderful biography, Playing for Keeps – Michael Jordan & the World He Made, David Halberstam ties Jordan’s phenomenal success to his happy spirit:
Jordan seemed almost innately joyous. His pleasure seemed to come from playing basketball, and he generated the most natural kind of self-confidence….
He was going to be a great player, Loughery [Jordan’s college roommate] thought, not just because of the talent and the uncommon physical assets but because he loved the game. That love could not be coached or faked, and it was something he always had. He was joyous about practices, joyous about games, as if he could not wait for either. Not many players had that kind of love. All too many modern players, Loughery believed, loved the money instead of the game. But Jordan’s love of what he did was real, and it was a huge advantage.
In Jordan’s own words:
People talk about my work ethic as a player, but they don’t understand. What appeared to be hard work to others was simply playing for me. We were playing a game. Why not play as hard as you can? There’s no pressure in taking that approach.
A cornerstone principle of the world’s spiritual teachings holds that each time we make our awareness a little bit larger, our soul – the internal conduit for God’s infinite bliss – rewards us with a corresponding little extra shot of joy. The spiritual teachings tell us that cultivating expansive, positive thoughts and feelings promotes health and well-being, while negative thoughts and emotions poison the body and make it vulnerable to disease.
If joyful, expansive attitudes can spread good vibrations throughout our bodies, surely they won’t stand in the way of sports performance, and they may, in fact, give us a powerful advantage. In every area of our lives, positive, life‑affirming attitudes are a key to success: in relationships, business, child-raising, and exercise. Even if our goal is just to lose ten pounds, our joy in the achievement will be amplified if we can devise ways to shed the pounds “expansively” – perhaps to the end of having more energy for our family and friends.
It isn’t hard to understand how expansion works. Consider the experience of people who start an exercise program. After the first few uncomfortable weeks, they find that they can climb stairs, take out the garbage, and play with the kids with more zest and freedom. As fresh energy spreads throughout their being, they find themselves feeling happier, more mentally alert and in tune with the life around them. Where they were formerly dragged down and confined by the torporous mass of their own flesh, they now have visions of surfing on waves of energy. Their awareness – the range and force of their bodies, hearts, and minds – has expanded.
The spiritual teachings tell us that these welcome increases of happiness are mere hints of an even greater expansion of joy that awaits us, as we extend our awareness sufficiently to loosen the ego’s grip and open our hearts to God’s boundless love and bliss.
I’m certainly not going to claim that every successful athlete is a quivering mass of joy. I read a newspaper story recently about a 270‑pound college football player who, enraged because his fast-food order hadn’t included chalupas, tried to attack the attendant and became stuck in the service window, from which he had to be extricated by the police.
To expect every successful athlete to be a model of compassion and humility would be – well, stupid. Basketball player Charles Barkley nailed it, in the famous Nike commercial where he intones: “I am not your role model.”
Still, there are excellent grounds for believing that athletes who are expansive get more from their sport, at least in the dimensions of their being where they’re expansive. (Whether they perform better is up to science to decide.) It may not take loving feelings to win the Super Bowl, but if you can get through the battle with some part of your essential humanity intact, who’s to doubt that it will add a positive dimension to the experience.
Consider the great philosopher-coaches mentioned earlier. Take Jim Counsilman, the swimming coach who built a dynasty of NCAA‑champion teams at the University of Indiana. Counsilman worked tirelessly to combat selfishness and narrow‑heartedness among his swimmers. He devoted a great deal of ingenuity to making their workouts fun, because he believed that a relaxed atmosphere, colored with positive, expansive feelings enhances athletic performance.
Or take John Wooden, the legendary UCLA basketball coach whose teams dominated the NCAA in the 1960s and ‘70s, winning 10 national championships. The UCLA players were required to study Wooden’s famous “Pyramid of Success,” which included such expansive values as “cooperation,” “enthusiasm,” “loyalty,” “friendship,” and “team spirit.” Wooden’s autobiography, My Personal Best: Life Lessons from an All-American Journey, published in 2004 when he was 94, is one of the most inspiring sports books of all time. There’s a wonderful video, Values, Victory and Peace of Mind, in which the “Wizard of Westwood,” still clear-eyed at 90, presents the Pyramid, with respectful appearances from former UCLA players Bill Walton and Kareem Abdul-Jabbar, and NBA coach Phil Jackson.
Even Vince Lombardi, the notoriously tough-minded coach who led the Green Bay Packers to victory in the first Super Bowl, practiced expansive values when it counted. Lombardi wasn’t hard on his players only to get the best out of them on the field. Bart Starr, the Packers’ Hall of Fame quarterback, recalls:
He never treated football as an end result, but rather a means to an end. He was concerned with the full, total life…. Tough, demanding, abrasive, he was also compassionate and understanding. For though he recognized that absolute perfection is never attainable, he believed the quest for it can be one of the most challenging races an individual can run.
Jerry Kramer, the Packers’ All‑Pro guard, put it more bluntly: “I had hated him at times during training camp and I had hated him at times during the season, but I knew how much he had done for us, and I knew how much he cared about us. He is a beautiful man.”
Joe Ehrmann is a former Baltimore Colts All-Pro defensive tackle. Ehrman now coaches high school football at the Gilman School in Baltimore. He believes young athletes today are encouraged to grow up believing in three wrong values: athletic ability, sexual conquest, and economic success. He calls these “false masculinity.”
“Masculinity, first and foremost, ought to be defined in terms of relationships,” Joe said. “It ought to be taught in terms of the capacity to love and to be loved…. And I think the second criterion – the only other criterion for masculinity – is that all of us ought to have some kind of cause, some kind of purpose in our lives that’s bigger than our own individual hopes, dreams, wants, and desires.”
Ehrmann teaches his players a code of conduct that’s starkly at variance with the values most young athletes absorb. It includes accepting responsibility, leading courageously, and “enacting justice on behalf of others.” Ehrmann’s “Building Men for Others” program is based on empathy: “Not feeling for someone, but with someone.”
Biff Poggi, head football coach at Gilman, read a newspaper article that quoted the coach at another school: “You have to push them [high school football players] to the brink and either they are going to break or they are going to stand up and be a man.”
Poggi took the article to a team meeting, where he read it aloud to the players and chortled:
“We ought to get a lifetime contract to play against this guy. We’d beat them every time we’d play, because he has no idea what he’s talking about. You understand? Fifty boys together, fifty boys that love each other and that are well affirmed and well loved by their coaches, will smack those guys anytime, in anything. Being a father. Being a son. Being a football player. Being a doctor. Being an astronaut. Being a human being. Being anything.
“That’s not how you become a man. Do you understand me? Because that means to be a man, you gotta somehow be some big, strong, physical person. And that’s got nothing to do with it. Trust me.”
When Season of Life was written, Gilman had been state champion two seasons in a row, winning all their games and ranking among the nation’s top ten high school teams.
Dean Ottati is a friend and the author of a wonderful book, The Runner and the Path. A high school football team in Dean’s home town of Concord, California, the De La Salle Spartans, set the record for the longest unbeaten streak in high school history, winning 151 straight games in 13 years (1991-2004), while holding the number-one national ranking for much of that time.
Dean was getting his hair cut one and talking about the team with the barber. Dean said, “There’s no way they don’t recruit players from other schools.”
A woman sitting in the shop overheard Dean’s remark. She said, “Let me tell you something. My son played for De La Salle, and I would be willing to die for Coach Lad [De La Salle head football coach Bob Ladouceur]. I would do anything for that man, for what he did for my son.”
Like Joe Ehrmann, Coach Ladouceur teaches values of brotherhood, sportsmanship, and integrity. The fact is, De La Salle doesn’t have to recruit, because parents are dying to get their sons into the school, not only for football but for the values they’ll absorb. The Spartans are the subject of an inspiring book, When the Game Stands Tall: The Story of the De La Salle Spartans and Football’s Longest Winning Streak, by Neil Hayes.
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My best performances as a runner are not impressive. Almost 40 years ago, at age 32, I ran a 5K in 18 minutes, a mediocre time, and it like to killed me. I’ve never been able to run 400 meters faster than 73 seconds. At age 53, after training hard for seven months, I eked out a 10‑mile race in 70 minutes, thereby earning no bragging rights. In my mid-twenties, I spent three years paralyzed from the chest down (a tumor was compressing my spinal cord), and although I recovered, my legs still aren’t hooked up right. My left leg has lingering spasticity and my right leg is mildly paralyzed. Meet Spaz and Gumby. The surgeries left me with a near-constant feeling as if my brain and heart are cross-wired and short-circuited. I’ve got the body of a great African runner, all right: the biomechanics of a rhino, and the VO2Max of a tree sloth. Yet I find that I can experience joy fairly reliably when I run, by cultivating an expansive attitude.
In fact, it’s a feature of the law of expansion that you don’t have to be fast, young, or gifted to make it work. You don’t even have to be fit, because you can taste the joys of expanded awareness by “nudging your edges” in any dimension of your being: body, heart, will, mind, soul. You’ve undoubtedly met people like that – men and women who were overweight and unhealthy, but who were joyful in areas of their lives where they expressed expansive qualities of kindness, courage, and love.
Several weeks ago, I had an unusual experience while running at Rancho San Antonio, a huge park in the foothills of the San Francisco Peninsula.
For the last seven years I’d run ultramarathons. I was feeling the need for a change, but I was uncertain what to do. As I ran, I prayed, saying, “What’s next? What should I do now?”
I was surprised to hear the clear intuitive voice of my spiritual teacher. It said, with powerful emphasis, almost shouting: “Retire!!!”
The message struck a chord. The six- and seven-hour training runs required by the ultramarathon sport were taking a toll on my work and relationships. At the same time, it was discouraging. I’d invested so many years, run thousands of miles – and for what? “Retire!” sounded ominously like quitting. But what could I look forward to?
A week later, I was thinking about this again during a 10-mile run in the hills behind Stanford University. I was feeling a little down – I certainly didn’t want to quit. If that’s what “retire” meant, it wasn’t a pill I could happily swallow.
Emerging from the hills onto a nearby street, I felt a freshness enter my legs, and I picked up the pace, feeling surprisingly joyful. Soon I was cruising at a fast clip, light and smooth, my spirits rising.
Turning my attention inward, I asked what it meant, and once again I heard the intuitive voice. This time it said, “Do you think you’d be feeling this way, if I meant that you should retire completely from running?”
Several miles later, near the end of the run, I was warming down, jogging slowly and feeling a bit sandbagged. I passed a grassy field where three Stanford soccer players, a woman and two men, were practicing a ball-control drill. The players were rimmed in golden light by the late-afternoon sun, and backlit against the green grass. For some reason the scene captured my attention, and I slowed to watch.
A player ran toward an orange plastic pylon, then cut back sharply while a second player tossed him the ball; the first player then kicked the ball into the arms of the third player. They repeated the drill over and over, with relentless skill and fully absorbed attention, and for reasons I can’t begin to explain, my heart was flooded with joy. The scene seemed to embody the Zen concept of “suchness” – it was a thing complete in itself, a small miracle of beauty and economy, and I nearly wept with happiness. My fatigue vanished, and I sailed through a nearby eucalyptus grove on legs as light as air.
A moment of simple magic had released an energy and joy that washed my fatigue away. What if I could run like that again and again? Could I banish fatigue by expanding my heart to the point of self‑forgetfulness? What lessons would I have to learn to be able to repeat the experience at will?
Casting my mind back over my four decades as a runner, I realized that I had experienced a similar joy on many occasions – an inner warmth of heart, or a fusion of energy and silence. And always those moments had come when I succeeded in opening doors through which my awareness could escape the narrow confines of the little ego and emerge into a wider reality.
My life as a runner had taught me a simple lesson: that expansion equals joy. I no longer felt discouraged about letting go of ultramarathons.
The spiritual teachings of the world tell us that life offers us endless opportunities for expansion into a greater happiness. As one teacher put it, “You go on until you achieve endlessness.” I realized there was much to look forward to.
 Daniel Goleman. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books. 1997. pp. 168-169. The study mentioned is: Howard Friedman and S. Boothby-Kewley, “The disease-Prone Personality: A Meta-Analytic View,” American Psychologist 42 (1987).
Moore, Kenny. Bowerman and the Men of Oregon: The Story of Oregon’s Legendary Coach and Nike’s Cofounder. Emmaus, PA: Rodale Press, 2005. 236.
Driven From Within, Mark Vancil, ed. New York: Atria Books, 2005. p. 18
 Jeffrey Marx. Season of Life: A Football Star, A Boy, A Journey to Manhood. Simon & Schuster, 2003.